When we won’t look at the parents of our childhood years objectively, here are a couple of several results.
One perspective for counseling is to look at our family of origin, the one we grew up in. In order to see how it impacts our lives, we have to be open to looking at it. There’s often resistance. It gets spoken in these statements.
This isn’t about them being good or bad. It isn’t about judging or forgiving them. It is NOT about confronting them. It’s not about whining. It’s not about years of therapy or self-help books.
It is about coming to terms with our lives and ourselves. It is about seeing them for who they were or still are. It is about trying to understand how it impacted us as children, which helps us understand our adult lives.
It’s not everything, but it’s an important piece of the journey.