Expectation to Desire

August 13th, 2012   •   Comments Off on Expectation to Desire   

When we accept that others will not always meet our expectations, we can shift them to desires. Knowing that we can’t make others do what we want them to, we choose to change our own perspective.

For too many years in our marriage, I expected that Jeff would want to dance when we went to weddings. He was really very consistent, and I was equally expectant.

We had a consistently crappy time at weddings. Such a waste of how to spend our days!

This picture was sent to us from a wedding we went to this summer. My feet were killing me from too much dancing! I was thrilled!

My desire is to dance and Jeff’s desire is not to dance. When we  understand the desires of another, we can freely choose how to treat them.

Expectations set us up to be disappointed. Desires set us up to be thrilled!